Wow, so I slacked off and haven’t updated this blog for two months. To be honest, I debated the merit of coming back at all. I couldn’t really think of why it would or wouldn’t be valuable to continue or stop, so I’ve just decided to try and continue as an experiment. This whole thing is an experiment anyways.
I wonder if I’ll look back at these past two months of my life as the most chaotic time I ever willingly put myself through. If you recall from the last post, I showed this short list of things I had going on:
1. Kicking ass at work and getting a raise/promotion.
2. Getting into a study habit
3. Moving Hiro’s life down to Maryland and finding a new place to live.
4. Finishing painting my room so that someone else can live there.
5. Enjoying playing Magic and building a community of friends
Well friends, you’ll be happy to know that I accomplished all of these and then some.
1. Hiro’s Whirlwind Adventure
Shortly after writing this post, Hiro and I went to LA/Ventura. She was recording one of her LinkedIn courses, and I was really just enjoying life as meals and hotel were all covered by the company. The trip was pretty fun and it was my first trip outside of LA/Anaheim. We stayed there for a week and we flew back to New York City.
Once we came back, we had to pack her whole life up and then take a truck down to Maryland. We arrived back in NY on Saturday night and then left in the Uhaul on Wednesday. We then unloaded all her stuff into the basement of the Silver Spring house where I had been living for ~6 months. This would be our home for a whole two weeks as we would immediately start looking for a new apartment to start our newly-wed life.
We found a great apartment in Kentlands and moved in on Labor Day. I moved twice in two weeks. Four times in a year. I’m having a lot of fun. We unpacked two lives’ worth of boxes, repacked all the stuff we had way too much of, built a bunch of furniture, and now we get to stay put for a while. However, for me, I really feel like things haven’t slowed down at all. Hiro has stepped up and taken over managing the house and cooking for me, which on one hand is awesome. At the same time, I don’t really feel in control of my living environment either. All that budget tracking…don’t do it anymore. Don’t have the will to track two people’s spending now.
2. Becoming a Student Again
It’s been a month since I started school and wow, it was such a shocker when it began. Remember that study schedule I was trying to build? It would’ve been pretty useful the first week. Here’s what I ended up putting into classes the first week and a half. 26 hours total.
This was a crazy start but I’m happy to report that it didn’t really stay this way. I probably would’ve lost my mind. For the last few weeks, I probably spend six to eight hours each week between two classes. I don’t really bother tracking studying anymore either. Like budget tracking, I just don’t have the mental capacity to keep up with it right now.
Moreover, I’ve quickly reverted to my old ways when I was in high school of putting in a “minimum effort”. I’m quite motivated to learn this material and do well in the classes (currently scoring 100% in one class and 90% in the other), but I just don’t have an endless amount of time to sink into this stuff. It makes me realize what a great position full time students are in. However, with moving, adjusting to married life, and starting a new position at work, I just don’t have a lot of overheard to give here. Even though it’s very important to me, I have a lot of conflicting priorities for my time.
3. Living the Married Life
This has easily been one of the most challenging parts of the last two months. All my life, my time has been my own. Now, my time belongs to someone else as well. It’s quite a realization to come to grips with. There are a lot of challenges here that I’m struggling with in general and I might try and write some down here over the next few months, kind of as a newly-wed diary. It might be fun to look back on in a few years.
4. New Work Team
Since I moved back from California, I had been in the same team for two and a half years. I found work and grew with and now it has grown to the point where I need to refocus priorities. As such, I’ve joined a new team with a new title and new responsibilities that I’m still sorting out.
Everything is new. I now bring food for lunch that I didn’t cook, with groceries I didn’t buy. I have to continue going to boxing and staying in shape amidst all this chaos. I still try to fit in time for Magic whenever I can. In fact, that’s one thing about time that I learned through all this. I’m fitting in everything and making it work, but most of all, I still create time for myself. Because I’m selfish, but I suppose it’s natural. I wonder if I can “create” time for other things. I find myself slipping into things that I know will relax me and put me at ease. I’m slipping away from things that I know will keep me productive (like this blog). I want to create time for those things again.
That being said, I have no idea what the weekly accountability series will turn into. Am I still going to have one? Do I need to just pick up tracking my budget and weight and everything again? Who knows